Stoya: Probably not, or at least not until she’s calmed down. Rich: Do you think there’s any getting through to her? Rich: I think just don’t share stuff about sex with the friend. I’m wondering what our writer should do regarding their friend. Really, sometimes I worry I’m not loud enough! And that my neighbors are judging me like, “God, I guess he’s not getting any.” I’m just tender and passionate!!!

There are limits on how loud you should be at all hours, like anything else, but that’s it. In big cities, it’s like, just part of the ambience. That is how to do it, precisely, in fact. Rich: Honestly, that’s the way to do it I think. Stoya: I’m just now, after 15 years of adult apartment sex, realizing that I had neighbors. I guess the flip side, though, is how much responsibility do the neighbors have here? The person behind the other wall may not be as amused as our letter writer. It seems that this is something the letter writer is at the mercy of, much like weather, and that when their neighbors start to bang, it’s like 77 and sunny with no humidity. It almost has to happen exactly as it’s laid out-something un-ignorable and not conjured by the person who is enjoying it. Have I overstepped, or am I in the clear?

So as long as I am within the confines of my own apartment and not trying to actively record them or use some sort of sound-enhancing equipment, I have not invaded anyone’s privacy. My belief is that since the neighbors would understand the limited soundproofing of the building, they then concede the right to auditory privacy when they’re very loud. My friend was very offended by this-she thought it was a massive invasion of the neighbors’ privacy and equated it to hiding in their closet. My friend commented that it must be so annoying to have neighbors like that, but I confessed that I enjoyed it and would sometimes masturbate to it. I recently had a friend over, during which time we overheard the neighbors going at it. I actually enjoy hearing them have sex and commonly masturbate while listening. I live in an apartment with stereotypical “thin walls” and with frequently noisy neighbors. I Can’t Believe the First Thing He Said to Me. I Just Slept With a Guy for the First Time Since COVID.

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